Divorce.. have you done it? Do you think you're likely to someday?

zoe

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Not something I've done. Don't expect to either. However, I'm fairly certain that's how everyone feels, and half or more of us are dead wrong. Why don't we ever see it coming or realistically plan for the odds?

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Not divorced and cant see it happening but that is just pure guesswork as not fucker knows.

We got married last year on our 25th anniversary of getting together so we served a decent apprenticeship imo,but with todays morals things can change so quick.
My old folk were pretty volatile but still together after 50+ years but plenty of ups and downs over the years without a doubt.

We had plenty of "friends" who were pushing me to get married for near 20 years,and in that time some have been married,divorced,and remarried so i reminded them of that fact every time as most were too retarded to see the irony.
My friends however have never pushed and in the end the decision was all made on three tosses of a coin on a night out with too much Gin.

As stated,others seem to see the changes long before the actual players do,but i think they see it but refuse to face reality.

The amount of times ive heard certain folk slate their other halves,leave them without a name,but a week later after kissing and making up they wont hear a bad word said against them which i find comical.Fair dues for sticking up for your partner,but keep everything between yous if you dont want to hear the truth.

Ive probably 8 close mates that we would do anything for each other,and out of them 6 are married,first time and still seemingly happy,and the other 2 long term and the same so in a way i think it says something about who i get close to.

However,mutual friends of ours,mine and missus,are a ramshackle of broken homes,broken hearts although still a few that are spot on.These friends are probably through the missus and mostly ones i dont really have time for that much so tells a story too.

Way too easy to say sack it nowadays and its the kids i really feel sorry for.Would have hated to been away from my old fella and couldnt imagine how i would have turned out without his guidance and discipline.
 
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Twice divorced. It's expensive both financially and emotionally, but you get over it. Looking back, I should never have married either of the 2 women I'm no longer with. My current wife and I are over 20 years together and will be celebrating 17 years married this spring. Wish I'd have met her before wife #1 to be honest.
 

Haggis

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Twice divorced. It's expensive both financially and emotionally, but you get over it. Looking back, I should never have married either of the 2 women I'm no longer with. My current wife and I are over 20 years together and will be celebrating 17 years married this spring. Wish I'd have met her before wife #1 to be honest.
How did you meet each of them?

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How did you meet each of them?

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The first in a fancy nightclub at the time in the mid 70's when disco, backgammon and foosball was all the rage. The next two in local watering holes of the neighborhood variety that cater to locals mostly. See the trend here. :think1

First wife lasted 8 years between living together and married life. Second 11 years between the same. Current wife longer than the first 2 combined and she will be the last for this old rooster.
 
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Haggis

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The first in a fancy nightclub at the time in the mid 70's when disco, backgammon and foosball was all the rage. The next two in local watering holes of the neighborhood variety that cater to locals mostly. See the trend here. :think1

First wife lasted 8 years between living together and married life. Second 11 years between the same. Current wife longer than the first 2 combined and she will be the last for this old rooster.
:thumbsup

Did you tell her when she had lasted longer than the other two combined? :lol:

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Haggis

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Didn't have to. She already knew. But she doesn't think it's funny when people ask me how many years I've been married and I say I've been married for 30 years--------------but to 3 different wives.
:lol:

I would have had a tshirt printed to commemorate it. :yep

But then, if I was in your situation I would introduce her to people as "this is my favourite wife", sooooo..... yeah. :lol:

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MGTOW. Never been married, never will be married. Once almost married when I was young but thankfully never went through with it. I had inclinations at the time it was a bad idea but the person I am today I know for certain how bad it would have impacted my life. We were both young but very young intellectually and knowing so little of ourselves, the world, etc. Just like most of the young couples around today they have a world of pain in front of them. Most anyway.

It's a near guarantee that you will be divorced. Not a matter of if but when. The reason you can't see it coming is that human society today is so much more complicated that people change all the time. It's not the world 100 years ago where man and woman in an LTR typically did the same activities for 50-60 years. Between job, internet media, hobbies, dating apps and hypergamy the woman you married today is going to be very different 5 years from now. You too will be different.

This is why so many men and women cheat today. It's unnatural for a woman to spend 8-12 hours a day with a man that isn't her husband and vice versa. Organically you just grow closer to people you spend time with and that's why since the start of novella hypergamy and dirty behavior was always associated to the city folk and not so much to the smaller, closer knit rural farmer communities where man and women worked and lived together.

It's not just these unnatural pairings to blame either. The hobby world has never been as large as it is today. You can hide in a virtual world for the entire ride just poking up whenever needed. This one is a big problem for men and is actually pulling men away from being productive. It's also a problem for women who think the trade up is going to happen every time they swipe their phones.

Anyway I am glad I went MGTOW for these reasons. Society whether you like it or not is not designed for LTRs. Not anymore. We're returning to tribalism primarily because of it.
 

DB Cooper

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Twice divorced. It's expensive both financially and emotionally, but you get over it. Looking back, I should never have married either of the 2 women I'm no longer with. My current wife and I are over 20 years together and will be celebrating 17 years married this spring. Wish I'd have met her before wife #1 to be honest.
Some marriages are doomed from the start. It is ironic how sometimes friends can see that but those involved can't.

Did any of your friends say to you once either marriage was over that they didn't think it would last?
 
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Some marriages are doomed from the start. It is ironic how sometimes friends can see that but those involved can't.

Did any of your friends say to you once either marriage was over that they didn't think it would last?
They get all the good stuff that the guy on the outside doesn't get. So the guy inside has the glass half full outlook where the guy outside only sees the bad shit.

The problem for the guy inside is that there are diminishing returns on his glass half full. Give it 5 years and the glass is much less half full than it used to be and by that time it's too late to walk away.
 
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Some marriages are doomed from the start. It is ironic how sometimes friends can see that but those involved can't.

Did any of your friends say to you once either marriage was over that they didn't think it would last?
Yep, sure did. One of my friends, upon seeing that I got a tattoo with a heart and my 2nd wife's name in it said to me, "Oh look, he's got his future ex's name to live with once she's gone." And he was right.
 

DB Cooper

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Yep, sure did. One of my friends, upon seeing that I got a tattoo with a heart and my 2nd wife's name in it said to me, "Oh look, he's got his future ex's name to live with once she's gone." And he was right.
So then you had to refine your search to someone with the same name. Kind of limits your options.
 
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Well being that I just got engaged like 2 months or so ago for the first time, I haven't been married or divorced.

But I am truly hopeful that I wont be the later in the future. Plan on marrying and marrying for good.

Maybe it doesn't work out for everyone but I'm willing to take the bet and I think it's sad that so many here just seem to write the idea of marriage off without a thought and just paint everyone with the same brush.