How Far Does Your Generosity Go?

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I consider myself to be a half decent bloke. I don't have a lot of money, but if you're short of cash and I have a bit spare you can have it. If you want the last pint in the pub you can't afford, I'll buy it you. But when do you say no? A friend on here helped me out last week with some computer stuff/software. I insisted I give him money, but he wouldn't take it (I will buy him food when I'm close by his place) and I could live with that because a) I offered, and b) he wouldn't take anything from me despite my offers.

Reason I ask is there's a bloke I work with, decent kind of fella...I always have loads of snacks on my work desk to trough on throughout the week, and also me and a lassie who is close by me buy chocolate biscuits for each other to eat et-cetera. Now, one day last week I offered said work fella a bag of crisps as he was short, I kind of said "help yourself" to my crisp stash. Now he just helps himself, and it isn't just one bag, it was three on Friday, and he's also taken to eating five or six of Louise and my biscuits at a time. Do I tell him to stop being a cunt or do I ask him to chip in for the food? If someone would have offered me food which I accepted, I would have taken the bare minimum.

What's your story? Are you generous? Would you tell work fella to fucking pack it in? How far does your generosity go? Use examples from all walks of life et-cetera.
 

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Either have a word or stop fetching so much food in. What little food you do bring in keep it in something that can be locked.
 
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That's not on. Doesn't matter how generous you are, he's being a cheeky cunt.


You ask before you take something, or better yet wait to be asked. You also return the favour unless you are really struggling, and if you're really struggling you don't have 3 bags of crisps.
 
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Trail

R.I.P. Joe Rein
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Either have a word or stop fetching so much food in. What little food you do bring in keep it in something that can be locked.
This is sage advice. I suppose the abundance of snacks and my chatty, friendly demeanour means I get the piss taken out of me.
 
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Trail

R.I.P. Joe Rein
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That's not on. Doesn't matter how generous you are, he's being a cheeky cunt.


You ask before you take something, or better yet wait to be asked. You also return the favour unless you are really struggling, and if you're really struggling you don't have 3 bags of crisps.
The last line is very true.
 
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he's taking the piss. bring the same food as usual and tell him no when he tries to be a pisstaker.
Part of me seems to think he doesn't think he's doing wrong; like the idiot who doesn't know he's an idiot.
 
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I am generous in that I will happily buy someone a drink or some food and not expect to get it back.


I don't like to share food though. I would rather buy someone their own portion than give them some of mine.
 
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Worked with a guy in the firehouse years ago on the same shift and we'd have to be on site no later than 7 a.m. so the outgoing shift could be relieved properly----man for man.

This guy would walk to the refrigerator as soon as he got in the station and scan to see what the outgoing shift left in the fridge from the previous nights dinner to take some and put it on the side for himself to eat. That way he didn't have to chip in for our meal that I would cook for the crew.

Now, it was common practice to not mess with the other platoons food left over so they could have it when they returned to work in 2 days time to have for lunch or to make another dish out of it. But this guys motto was "If it's for free, it's for me" and he'd raid their food at every opportunity.

Believe me, our guys gave him grief over his cheapskate ways, but he was impervious to insults and almost relished in the abuse. Some people are just that thick----unfortunately.
 
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I am generous in that I will happily buy someone a drink or some food and not expect to get it back.


I don't like to share food though. I would rather buy someone their own portion than give them some of mine.
Yep, this. Irritates me no end if I'm going the shop and ask anyone do they want anything. When I get back with my food, lo and behold, someone wants "just a couple of crisps" or whatever after telling me they didn't want anything. I'd happily buy the cunt(s) their own packet. Fuck that sharing.
 

Trail

R.I.P. Joe Rein
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Yep, this. Irritates me no end if I'm going the shop and ask anyone do they want anything. When I get back with my food, lo and behold, someone wants "just a couple of crisps" or whatever after telling me they didn't want anything. I'd happily buy the cunt(s) their own packet. Fuck that sharing.
Yeah, similar thing is when you do a 'does anyone want anything from the shop?' thing is that I rarely take any cash from anyone if they just want a can of pop or a Mars bar as I can usually stretch to a quid. However, same people will be waiting with all manner of bailiffs at your desk when they've brought you something from the shop when it's their turn to go.
 
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Yeah, similar thing is when you do a 'does anyone want anything from the shop?' thing is that I rarely take any cash from anyone if they just want a can of pop or a Mars bar as I can usually stretch to a quid. However, same people will be waiting with all manner of bailiffs at your desk when they've brought you something from the shop when it's their turn to go.

Obviously it depends on each persons circumstances. I'm same as yourself, I'll spring for a few bits and pieces no bother. Although if I ever get a vibe off someone who's always on the take, I'll not continue with said person.

My wife's friends husband is an absolute stich pockets. I've only met him a couple of times over the years but I've heard all the stories of him being a miserable git. He loaned his girlfriend (now wife) of 4 years 150 euro. He made her set up a direct debit to his bank to pay him back...

If it was his round for drinks he wouldn't buy himself one. He'd drink the last round real slow until the round after his....Save himself all 4 - 5 euro...

At their wedding he kept an account of every gift/card they received from guests.
 
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That's the problem with being generous to some cunts,you just never know if they will rip the piss out of your good nature.

Wouldn't be putting up with that though,tell him straight or he will just keep cucking you.
 
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Fairly generous I'd say. If my parents or whatever owed me a small sum of money I'd leave them off it. Happily buy someone a drink and not expect one back etc.

What I can't stand is people that recognise this trait and try to take advantage of it. There's a lad I work with who is actually a sound bloke but he never brings any smokes with him. I don't mind giving someone the odd smoke but if the reason you don't have them yourself is because you're too lazy and tight to go buy them you can fuck off for yourself. I start work an hour later than him and he text one day asking would I leave a couple of smokes in his locker. I ignored it but I was like fuck off over to the shop and buy them or better yet give them up ya cunt.