How Far Does Your Generosity Go?

Trail

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Obviously it depends on each persons circumstances. I'm same as yourself, I'll spring for a few bits and pieces no bother. Although if I ever get a vibe off someone who's always on the take, I'll not continue with said person.

My wife's friends husband is an absolute stich pockets. I've only met him a couple of times over the years but I've heard all the stories of him being a miserable git. He loaned his girlfriend (now wife) of 4 years 150 euro. He made her set up a direct debit to his bank to pay him back...

If it was his round for drinks he wouldn't buy himself one. He'd drink the last round real slow until the round after his....Save himself all 4 - 5 euro...

At their wedding he kept an account of every gift/card they received from guests.
That's ridiculous - the girlfriend bit the most ridiculous of all. I split from my ex girlfriend last year and I owed her lots of money. I'm still paying her back now despite her making me homeless. This is simply because I don't fuck people around.

As for your line on the bloke missing on the beer in a round to save €5, if I was so broke or so tight I'd just not go out. I can live without ale.

As for me generally with money, yep, if you're genuinely broke and I have it, it's yours. When I don't have it, you can't have it. I've been skint for 75% of my life despite working good jobs, this is due mainly to a 20 year alcohol addiction and money being no object when I'm fucking drunk. These days I don't drink and I'm a bit better off, so everything I get, irrespective of how small it is, I treasure. I've been penniless and on the street almost, anything I buy now I treat like gold. If I see someone skint I remember how I was a year ago, living in a motel for three months on my not rich parents money and nothing else, and I'll cut some people some slack.
 
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Trail

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Fairly generous I'd say. If my parents or whatever owed me a small sum of money I'd leave them off it. Happily buy someone a drink and not expect one back etc.

What I can't stand is people that recognise this trait and try to take advantage of it. There's a lad I work with who is actually a sound bloke but he never brings any smokes with him. I don't mind giving someone the odd smoke but if the reason you don't have them yourself is because you're too lazy and tight to go buy them you can fuck off for yourself. I start work an hour later than him and he text one day asking would I leave a couple of smokes in his locker. I ignored it but I was like fuck off over to the shop and buy them or better yet give them up ya cunt.
That rings true with me.
 

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What I can't stand is people that recognise this trait and try to take advantage of it. There's a lad I work with who is actually a sound bloke but he never brings any smokes with him. I don't mind giving someone the odd smoke but if the reason you don't have them yourself is because you're too lazy and tight to go buy them you can fuck off for yourself. I start work an hour later than him and he text one day asking would I leave a couple of smokes in his locker. I ignored it but I was like fuck off over to the shop and buy them or better yet give them up ya cunt.
When I was 19 I got a job as a labourer on a construction site, the first day I just about got punched over by some 40 year old asshole because I wouldn't buy him lunch! He tried to strongarm me into buying him a couple of pies and a drink. Said it was "a tradition" that the new guy buys lunch for the most senior guy he's working with. I told him "Oh yeah? Won't be happening today mate." Words were exchanged, and tempers frayed a bit. :lol: Next day I found out that he was full of shit, was known as an asshole and was just trying to extort the new young guy because he was cheap, and a cunt.

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Luckily, I've never had an issue with food. I don't eat when I work, I don't even get hungry. I never understood packing lunch and all that stuff. If I eat anything, I get insanely sleepy. Anyways, it's counterproductive for me. The two stories I've read, though, sound like some absolute fucking degenerates. I mean I'd be ashamed to ask anyone for food first of all. Cheap motherfuckers by the way. If I'm starving, I just go to the nearest restaurant or fast food joint. I wouldn't go rooting through the faculty lounge or asking people. That'd be insane.
 
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When I was 19 I got a job as a labourer on a construction site, the first day I just about got punched over by some 40 year old asshole because I wouldn't buy him lunch! He tried to strongarm me into buying him a couple of pies and a drink. Said it was "a tradition" that the new guy buys lunch for the most senior guy he's working with. I told him "Oh yeah? Won't be happening today mate." Words were exchanged, and tempers frayed a bit. :lol: Next day I found out that he was full of shit, was known as an asshole and was just trying to extort the new young guy because he was cheap, and a cunt.

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You'd actually be fucking amazed at the gaul some people have.
 

Trail

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When I was 19 I got a job as a labourer on a construction site, the first day I just about got punched over by some 40 year old asshole because I wouldn't buy him lunch! He tried to strongarm me into buying him a couple of pies and a drink. Said it was "a tradition" that the new guy buys lunch for the most senior guy he's working with. I told him "Oh yeah? Won't be happening today mate." Words were exchanged, and tempers frayed a bit. :lol: Next day I found out that he was full of shit, was known as an asshole and was just trying to extort the new young guy because he was cheap, and a cunt.

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Good on you.
 
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When I was 19 I got a job as a labourer on a construction site, the first day I just about got punched over by some 40 year old asshole because I wouldn't buy him lunch! He tried to strongarm me into buying him a couple of pies and a drink. Said it was "a tradition" that the new guy buys lunch for the most senior guy he's working with. I told him "Oh yeah? Won't be happening today mate." Words were exchanged, and tempers frayed a bit. :lol: Next day I found out that he was full of shit, was known as an asshole and was just trying to extort the new young guy because he was cheap, and a cunt.

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I think that can be pretty common, you find it a lot in traditionally manly jobs. The old guys bullying or taking a lend of the apprentices, pushing them as far as they can.

I've never done a proper job like that, but I had a guy try to take the piss when I started my first job in a supermarket.

I was 16, I've always been polite, and I can be quite quiet around new people, anyway some grown man took that for me being soft and tried to take advantage.

Getting me to do his work because I didn't know any better, taking long breaks, not letting me get mine. I didn't say anything because I didn't want to lose the job, so he went further and tried to make fun of me in front of the other staff.

I took the piss back, (he was a fat, ugly, loser), which he didn't like, so the fucker hid my clothes so I couldn't get changed and go home. I got him on the shop floor and told him in front of all the other guys that if he didn't give me my stuff right now then I'd do him a favour and punch his brown fucking teeth right out his fat fucking face.

He shat a brick and got them for me. Tried to laugh it off like we were pals.

You need to be a right sad case to pick on kids as an adult. He eventually started seeing a woman who sorted him out a bit. He got his teeth fixed and became a manger. Was still a bit of a twat though.
 
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My motto is "Its only money"

I think nothing of buying someone a pint or a bit of lunch and don't expect anything back.

It's good because if you're generally kind to people then others will be kind to you. There's been a few times I've been skint and the lads going for a drink after work sorted me out with a few pints because they know Id do the same for them,which is a good way to be.

I don't like asking people for things though.
 
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he might genuinely have thought the offer was open ended. ive worked in tandem with a guy on opposite shifts and when we used to swap one of us would say "ive left x, y, z in the fridge, feel free to eat it for dinner if you want" over the years this has gradually given way to us both just openly eating each others food. its basically a free for all. the point is if hed gotten sick of this arrangement i would have no idea and your guy at work might genuinely be under the same illusion.
next time he does it i would just say in jest "mate thats not an endless fucking supply ya scab, leave it alone and bring your own food" if he persists after that you might have to have a bit more of a serious go at him
 
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I consider myself to be a half decent bloke. I don't have a lot of money, but if you're short of cash and I have a bit spare you can have it. If you want the last pint in the pub you can't afford, I'll buy it you. But when do you say no? A friend on here helped me out last week with some computer stuff/software. I insisted I give him money, but he wouldn't take it (I will buy him food when I'm close by his place) and I could live with that because a) I offered, and b) he wouldn't take anything from me despite my offers.

Reason I ask is there's a bloke I work with, decent kind of fella...I always have loads of snacks on my work desk to trough on throughout the week, and also me and a lassie who is close by me buy chocolate biscuits for each other to eat et-cetera. Now, one day last week I offered said work fella a bag of crisps as he was short, I kind of said "help yourself" to my crisp stash. Now he just helps himself, and it isn't just one bag, it was three on Friday, and he's also taken to eating five or six of Louise and my biscuits at a time. Do I tell him to stop being a cunt or do I ask him to chip in for the food? If someone would have offered me food which I accepted, I would have taken the bare minimum.

What's your story? Are you generous? Would you tell work fella to fucking pack it in? How far does your generosity go? Use examples from all walks of life et-cetera.
I’ve seen plenty of similar situations at work and the answer’s always the same. Give them shit, but in a jokey way that gets the message across. Every time you see the cunt for the next week, just say, “Oh here he comes. Let me guess, you want more of my crisps? Want me to pay for your dinner as well?”, or, “Ah, here comes Dave. No doubt he’s on his way over to replenish our supply of snacks that he’s been helping himself to for the past month”. Both shit examples, but you get the idea. Get a couple of others in on it and give him some friendly shit, loud and clear.

I just think suddenly locking them up, stopping buying them, or having a serious one-on-one are way too much overkill for someone who’s taking the piss with your snack stash. Unless he’s retarded, he’ll instantly realise he should be bringing stuff in to add to the snack fund, or he should stop fucking snaffling everyone else’s food.

That’s what I’d try first, anyway. If he carries on then get a giant, comedy padlock on them or something. You’ll get the point across before you have to take actual action and make things cold or awkward around the office, I’m sure.
 
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I’ve seen plenty of similar situations at work and the answer’s always the same. Give them shit, but in a jokey way that gets the message across. Every time you see the cunt for the next week, just say, “Oh here he comes. Let me guess, you want more of my crisps? Want me to pay for your dinner as well?”, or, “Ah, here comes Dave. No doubt he’s on his way over to replenish our supply of snacks that he’s been helping himself to for the past month”. Both shit examples, but you get the idea. Get a couple of others in on it and give him some friendly shit, loud and clear.

I just think suddenly locking them up, stopping buying them, or having a serious one-on-one are way too much overkill for someone who’s taking the piss with your snack stash. Unless he’s retarded, he’ll instantly realise he should be bringing stuff in to add to the snack fund, or he should stop fucking snaffling everyone else’s food.

That’s what I’d try first, anyway. If he carries on then get a giant, comedy padlock on them or something. You’ll get the point across before you have to take actual action and make things cold or awkward around the office, I’m sure.
Exactly what I was gonna say @Trail.

If you don't wanna be too confrontational in a workspace, next time, ask him when he's replacing everything, using a jokey/not jokey tone.
 

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I'm not that attached to money so I tend to be quite lackadaisical and generous with it and the thought would never cross my mind about how many rounds I've bought compared to some other guy in the group... I just don't think like that but I hate hate, hate being indebted to anyone.

I really don't like to take anything from anyone. If I've left the house without my bank card or cash and someone needs to lend us £10 to the next day, it annoys me till the next day when I repay it.

I also take great offence in anyone thinking I'm cheap because it's the last thing I am.
 

Trail

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I’ve seen plenty of similar situations at work and the answer’s always the same. Give them shit, but in a jokey way that gets the message across. Every time you see the cunt for the next week, just say, “Oh here he comes. Let me guess, you want more of my crisps? Want me to pay for your dinner as well?”, or, “Ah, here comes Dave. No doubt he’s on his way over to replenish our supply of snacks that he’s been helping himself to for the past month”. Both shit examples, but you get the idea. Get a couple of others in on it and give him some friendly shit, loud and clear.

I just think suddenly locking them up, stopping buying them, or having a serious one-on-one are way too much overkill for someone who’s taking the piss with your snack stash. Unless he’s retarded, he’ll instantly realise he should be bringing stuff in to add to the snack fund, or he should stop fucking snaffling everyone else’s food.

That’s what I’d try first, anyway. If he carries on then get a giant, comedy padlock on them or something. You’ll get the point across before you have to take actual action and make things cold or awkward around the office, I’m sure.
That's actually pretty sound advice. I wouldn't want to create a scene or have to pick him up on it, so this might be the way to go. Make light of it and hope he takes the hint. That's not a bad way of approaching things. He's a really nice fella to be fair, but even those fellas who aren't as nice would, I think, pay their way. Maybe it's just the way I've been brought up, I don't take anything for granted - fuck when I used to be a drinker I'd often turn down offers of people paying me on because they'd done it before and I sort of had some morals. It's strange how some people's mind work, mine these days works better, and I wouldn't take the piss.

Thanks for the post, Rakim.
 

Trail

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he might genuinely have thought the offer was open ended. ive worked in tandem with a guy on opposite shifts and when we used to swap one of us would say "ive left x, y, z in the fridge, feel free to eat it for dinner if you want" over the years this has gradually given way to us both just openly eating each others food. its basically a free for all. the point is if hed gotten sick of this arrangement i would have no idea and your guy at work might genuinely be under the same illusion.
next time he does it i would just say in jest "mate thats not an endless fucking supply ya scab, leave it alone and bring your own food" if he persists after that you might have to have a bit more of a serious go at him
Sound advice again. @Rakim posts similar tactics. Might give it a go.
 

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I'm not that attached to money so I tend to be quite lackadaisical and generous with it and the thought would never cross my mind about how many rounds I've bought compared to some other guy in the group... I just don't think like that but I hate hate, hate being indebted to anyone.

I really don't like to take anything from anyone. If I've left the house without my bank card or cash and someone needs to lend us £10 to the next day, it annoys me till the next day when I repay it.

I also take great offence in anyone thinking I'm cheap because it's the last thing I am.
This is me, basically.
 
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I'm not that attached to money so I tend to be quite lackadaisical and generous with it and the thought would never cross my mind about how many rounds I've bought compared to some other guy in the group... I just don't think like that but I hate hate, hate being indebted to anyone.

I really don't like to take anything from anyone. If I've left the house without my bank card or cash and someone needs to lend us £10 to the next day, it annoys me till the next day when I repay it.

I also take great offence in anyone thinking I'm cheap because it's the last thing I am.
I feel very similar.

Don't like borrowing anything, if I do I need to pay it back ASAP. If someone loans you some change for a vending machine or something I need to pay then back. Even if its a only 10p and they couldn't care less.
 
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