Aye, I do give her spending money but this is more for things like having a nicer house/bedroom etc. I don't want her going g back to a dump...although I'm sure the house is fine and my kid says it's fine but for a few hundred pound a month it makes me feel better. Like I said, her mum works in care now and this may (or may not) be because she had limited options when she had a kid...she was a teenager too. I went to Uni and relied on her massively in the early days so I do kinda feel like I owe her for that.Well, fair enough, but in that case, when your daughter goes home give her spending money to maintain the standard she is used to. Presumably your exes home is the same regardless. It's not like if you stop paying her support then she will no longer live where she does. She IS an ungrateful fucker, if the facts are as you have presented them. Unbelievable fucking nerve to ask for a lump sum for a fucking cosmetic procedure, based off the fact that she was once pregnant...when she got pregnant by fucking up the contraception she told you she was on. If she didn't fuck up, she lied...either way it's more her fault than yours.