Wow, this is actually fucking spot on, I've only just become a Dad 3 months ago, so i cant go preaching how to be a decent Dad myself, but people around me who you might say aren't doing a particularly good job are definitely just lazy for the most part.Not read the thread but during birth DO NOT look down there, man. When my kid was crowning the midwife asked if I wanted to see, ignorance and haze got the better me and I did. Just don't do it.
Other than that, things come naturally. Just don't be a lazy parent. Most bad parents are actually just lazy. Those who don't put the effort in teaching, reading, explaining, etc. It's all a massive process and not doing a part of it will lead to problems down the line.
If you ever have to lift a hand to a kid you've failed and if you ever find yourself saying "my parents spanked me and it didn't do me any harm"...as you assault your own kid then you should kill yourself.
Laziness works the other way too though, picking the kid up everytime it cries or taking it into your bed and shit like that. That's not 'i just love it too much' it's fucking laziness and taking the easy route.
Some advice on the night feeds or getting up to put the baby's dummy back in is your will power to pretend you're asleep, she will cave before you every time. Just keep your eyes closed, she will do the rest.Right so me and the wife are expecting our first child, a son, at the end of January which is soon coming around! I'm obviously really excited but pretty unsure as to what I should actually be doing when he arrives. Are there any respectable fathers out there amongst you animals that can give me any tips that will be useful for the actual birth or when he's finally here? What to do or not to do etc..
Many thanks in advance for any helpful advice!
Listen to none of this...I don't have kids, but from my observations, after the first year or so the most important thing is:
DON'T LEAP TO ATTENTION EVERY TIME THE KID MAKES A NOISE!
I visited some friends of mine yesterday, and I had to GTFO after one hour because they're raising two spoiled, needy, annoying shithead kids. The older is 7, and for her entire life, every time she coughs or turns over in bed, the mother flies into her room asking what's wrong, does she want anything, telling the adults in the living room to quiet down, etc etc. And now they have two shithead kids who won't sleep if anyone is visiting the house, who DEMAND shit ALL the time, and who override their parents and run the house. And it is a fucking nightmare, even to visit for an hour.
Other friends of mine raised a kid where, if she cried for attention for no reason other than she wants attention, they wouldn't validate it. Now they have a kid who sleeps like a rock even if the house is full of drunk people, and who accepts that if she asks for some icecream or whatever and you say no - that's a no, that's not a cue to start whining until the nearest adult says "Fine, suit yourself, you can have some THIS time but this is a special treat, okay bubby?"
So that's some advice from a guy who doesn't have kids, but who observes how others raise THEIR kids.
I was actually hoping I could have twins so I could do that to all the other people that are just regular parents.Don't be one of those parents who are condescending to people who don't have kids and say things like, ' you wouldn't understand, it's different when you have kids, you could only know if you had kids'....